Actively seek your life’s true north
In the midst of our everyday lives and responsibilities, it’s all too easy to get mired in busy work and lose sight of what’s important to us. After living like a hamster on a wheel for a while, we begin to feel empty or directionless. We may be unsure what to do with our lives, or struggle to feel a sense of meaning.
In such times, actively working to define your purpose can help. This is an ongoing process. Many people believe that, when they seek greater meaning in life, they must find their one true purpose, which encompasses everything they are, and will ever want to be and do. Or, they decide that this problem is so intractable that they should give up, and only aim for short term goals. The truth lies in the middle ground. It’s possible to find a purpose, live by it, and then adapt it as your life progresses.
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There are a lot of ways to discover a sense of purpose. For example, you can participate in workshops designed to help attendees connect with their purpose, work with a coach who specializes in this field, or explore writing exercises. One good exercise is to connect with and list your values, then attempt to articulate the world you’re seeking to create, and how. Be specific. Try to express this in a sentence, in the format:
I create a world of ____ by being ___.
Examples of purposes can be:
Alternatively, you can adapt this format to articulate more specific goals, for example:
The scope and content is really up to you. However, using the present tense can feel more actionable and concrete.
Another compass you can use to orient yourself towards your purpose, is the Zuzunaga Venn Diagram of Purpose, often misrepresented as the Japanese concept of Ikigai, a reason for living. According to Zuzunaga, the center of this diagram can be seen as the place where various phenomena overlap:
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Your purpose, or driving force, can be found where these four intersect. You can check how many of these components are currently active in your life, and how you are feeling about those that are lacking. If you feel that something is off in your life, it may be valuable to explore these missing components.
A third route to discovering what motivates you is to ask, “If I had a billion dollars, what would I do?” Then, allow yourself to rest and imagine your life. After you buy a new house and car, after you travel around the world, after you do whatever else immediately comes to mind, what does your life look like? What do you do during your day? What do you do for fun, and for meaning? With whom do you spend your time?
Your answers will show you what really matters to you. By understanding this, you will gain insight into what will make you feel fulfilled in life, which can fuel your sense of purpose in the present, and help you align your decisions with that purpose.
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